Past Trauma:
* Previous Abuse or Neglect: A history of being mistreated could make your cat wary of close physical contact.
* Stray Life: A life on the streets can make cats skittish and prone to avoiding close contact.
Personality:
* Independent Nature: Some cats are simply more independent and prefer their own space.
* Anxiety: Even after finding a loving home, your cat might still experience anxiety that makes them uncomfortable with physical closeness.
Comfort and Preference:
* Preference for Other Spots: Your cat might prefer to be on the couch, bed, or even a windowsill, where they have a better view of their surroundings.
* Specific Time of Day: They might only be comfortable sitting on your lap at certain times, perhaps when they're feeling sleepy or relaxed.
Tips to Encourage Lap Time:
* Be Patient: It takes time for cats to build trust. Avoid forcing them onto your lap.
* Offer Treats and Affection: Associate lap time with positive reinforcement, such as treats or gentle petting.
* Create a Comfortable Environment: Make sure your lap is warm and inviting, perhaps with a soft blanket.
* Respect Their Boundaries: If they show signs of discomfort, like flicking their tail or hissing, let them go.
* Provide Alternatives: Offer your cat other comfortable places to rest, like a cat bed or a window perch.
* Consider a Cat Tree or Scratching Post: This gives them a place to climb and feel safe and secure.
Remember, every cat is an individual. Enjoy the progress your cat has made, and continue to build trust and love through patience and understanding. If your cat continues to be very anxious, a vet visit might be helpful to rule out any underlying medical issues.