How to Express Sympathy for Pet Loss

Expressing sympathy for a pet's loss may be confusing if you have never experienced a pet's loss. "Society as a whole generally does not acknowledge the significance of pet loss, nor understand the profound grief a pet owner might feel," states Recover-from-grief.com (see Reference 1). Pet owners undergo the same grieving process as with any family member's loss because they view their pets as a family member or even as a child. When a pet passes, it can be just as devastating as a person's passing. It's very important to validate the person's loss. Express sympathy in the same manner as you would with any type of loss.

Instructions

  1. Expressing Sympathy

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      Be thoughtful in your word choice when talking on the phone, in an email, or in person. Sometimes the most comforting sentence to say is: "I have no idea what to say, but I am so sorry for your loss." Another consoling sentiment could be: "I don't know how you feel. I know you are devastated, and I'm so sorry."

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      Send a sympathy gift: a card, flowers, gift basket, or chocolates. Make a meal or cookies. There are many pet sympathy cards available, but any sympathy card will work. It may be the only card the pet owner receives.

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      Make a donation in the pet's memory. If the pet suffered from a particular illness, make a donation to a pet foundation specializing in that disease. If you cannot find an organization appropriate for the animal's illness, make a donation to the pet owner's local animal shelter or to his or her favorite charity. It's the gesture that matters--not who receives the donation.

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      Listen. Being there to listen may be all the pet owner needs. According to Recover-from-Grief.com, "That is what he needs most right now, quiet support. It's called 'therapeutic silence.' " (See Reference 1). Offering a sincere ear, a shoulder to cry on, and even a hug encourages healing. Remember not to dismiss the loss until the person works through his or her own personal grieving process.