Instructions
Read your horse's body language. Your mare will respond better to you when she knows that you understand her. When getting her from her stall, wait until she acknowledges you. If she turns away she is telling you that you do not belong there, while acknowledging your presence is her way of inviting you in. Additionally, if she kicks during training, it means she feels threatened and someone, probably you, has gotten too close. If she sees that you are willing to back off when she is uncomfortable, she will respond positively to you. Be careful not to let her take control, though, and do not allow her to push you around.
Use a lead rope to assert yourself. While it is important to respect your mare's territory, you never want her to take control. If she starts getting pushy or aggressive, give an assertive jerk on the lead to get her attention. Hold your ground so that she knows she cannot push you around. Apply constant pressure to the lead rope to get your mare to lower her head. When she does, even an inch, release the pressure and rub her nose or head. Your mare will learn to follow your directions and associate proper behavior with the release of pressure on the lead. Having her lower her head instructs her to relax; horses hold their heads high when they are tense.
Introduce new pressures gradually, especially when you start her under training. This is essential if your mare is particularly stubborn or has a distinctive personality. A submissive mare is likely to stay submissive and respond better, but if your mare is more dominant, you will have to ease her into responding to pressure and direction. Ease off if she becomes agitated or aggressive, and let her think the training and instruction are her idea.
How to Train a Disrespectful Mare
Horses are herd animals and naturally follow patterns of behavior associated with herd life. This includes power differences and displays of territorial dominance. Mares in particular are protective of their territory and may react with aggression when they perceive someone to be invading their space without invitation. If your new mare is acting aggressively or being disrespectful, you will need to show her that you are in charge while respecting her territory before you can begin properly training her.